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I saw this in my inbox this morning
"I realized earlier this year something that was hard to admit.
I'm scared of love.
Or, I should say, there's a part of myself that finds it terrifying.
It's frustrating, because to me love is the most powerful, devastating, and wonderful force in the universe--and there's nothing I'd like more to give myself over to. Even so, every time I think I've gone as far as I can go in becoming available and open to the feeling of really and truly being loved, I find some timid little area of my heart that's resisting.
"You don't deserve it," comes the whisper.
Maybe you can relate. :)"
And with Tom's post on another thread about raising ( changing ) our thermostat in regards to success and love and intimacy.
So,
Why is it so diffucult to be loved? What does it mean to you to be loved? When someone loves you how do you feel? ( Obvisously there are many advantages to being loved) What are the disadvantages, why do people run from it?
"I realized earlier this year something that was hard to admit.
I'm scared of love.
Or, I should say, there's a part of myself that finds it terrifying.
It's frustrating, because to me love is the most powerful, devastating, and wonderful force in the universe--and there's nothing I'd like more to give myself over to. Even so, every time I think I've gone as far as I can go in becoming available and open to the feeling of really and truly being loved, I find some timid little area of my heart that's resisting.
"You don't deserve it," comes the whisper.
Maybe you can relate. :)"
And with Tom's post on another thread about raising ( changing ) our thermostat in regards to success and love and intimacy.
So,
Why is it so diffucult to be loved? What does it mean to you to be loved? When someone loves you how do you feel? ( Obvisously there are many advantages to being loved) What are the disadvantages, why do people run from it?
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Thu, May 28, 2009 - 7:35 PMI can relate... I don't think there are any disadvantages of love, you just have to be mindful what or who you put your love in... what or who you love has the equal but opposite ability to hurt you too. If you give your love away it can set you up for an emotional roller coaster.... can be really good or really hurtful.
My advice.... reckless love.... love in the moment.... when it puts itself infront of you, reach out and grab it... after the moments over, let it go...
This can be applied to a simple conversation in a check out line, to a lover.... pretty much any situation involving company. Put your best foot forward.... loving's easy.... keep it simple.
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Sun, May 31, 2009 - 12:22 AMFrom my understanding towards humanity, I learn that love is difficult because when we come face to face to a relationship, we prioritise more on how 'to be loved', instead of 'being the love' itself. If we demand love, we expect a certain quantity based on our personal ideals, and when the expectations aren't met, we are disappointed again and again, always unfulfilled. But when we are being the love, and find it enough within ourselves, then we are at peace, that is, doing the best with what we presently have. From what we already have within, we share to others. Just love, leave it there, when it comes let it come, but don't look for it.
"this is the ultimate law, the inexhaustible law, the ultimate truth, that it is within you" - ancient saying
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Sun, June 7, 2009 - 7:42 AMyes, if you give your love away it can set you up...
if you give ask for demand expect love when it hurts another it can also set you up or hurt you
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Tue, June 9, 2009 - 7:52 PMthanks Mathus
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Sun, June 7, 2009 - 6:06 PMThe practice of love is easy, don't be afraid of it. It is what we are. I think the most loving act is creation, and we create our selves every minute of everday. Settle into the love that we are, that is your creation.
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Sun, August 30, 2009 - 8:42 PMLove in it's absolute sincerity is the most unifying force in the universe. Love is the most basic energy that exists. God is love. God is the creator and is inherent in his creation. If you think this way, then you will see yourself as a product of love and not something that is separate.
I build my concept of romantic love on this perception. I don't implement this 'base' idea continuously, but it is always there and provides strength when there are trials.
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Tue, September 1, 2009 - 10:41 AMa woman said she loved me.
i hated it, she would not leave me alone. she was clingy and icky. she wanted to consume me. it was quite horrible.
she didn't love me though. she hated herself and she wanted to own me so she could ignore herself.
a woman loved me, but she would never say it. i saw it in her eyes. the adoration. but she didn't want to own me. she wanted me to be free ands wanted herself to be free. the look was more like "thank you for being in my life" it was appreciation. -
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Mon, September 14, 2009 - 8:33 AMWords are just representations that can mean different things to different people. This is always good to keep in mind. And mutual appreciation should definitely be evident in a loving relationship... Thanks for posting -
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Sun, September 27, 2009 - 10:32 PMinevitably one must learn to love oneself.. and then perhaps u will feel deserving? i am not sure... to fully open oneself up to complete love.. if u have done it once before, u must know that afterwards if things don't work out too well... that there is pain... great pain. what we learn then is wisdom. and as we mature, we learn to discern for ourselves 'healthy' relationships and loving situations.. love is a very broad term... and i think that there are different kinds of love even... but to truly let someone into that sacred space within your heart and soul... u need to know that u can trust them.. and trust is key. sometimes it can be difficult to trust if u have been hurt before. sometimes it can be difficult to trust because intuitively u don't feel authentically loved by your partner.
people run from love because they have been hurt before... from another time when they were in love. it is a wonderful feeling... sometimes it is just our ego's that get in the way. sometimes we don't know how to be caring and empathetic enoug after a certain period of time... sometimes we just simply r not 'healthy' on our own as individuals... this does eventually 'screw up' our love lives sometimes.
love is a truly wonderful thing.. and all healing. one just has to remember and accept that they're not always gonna agree on everything.. and to treat each other with mutual respect and empathy. communication is so important... it can make it or break it. eventually if u learn to trust enough... and love yourself enough.. u will be able to love fully and show your whole heart to the right person. ;^) TRUST...
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Mon, September 28, 2009 - 9:50 AMLove is connection...simple as that...connection with a person, an animal, a tree, our spiritual dimension...all the same.
Romantic love is conditioning to control us.
As I healed and became whole, I also felt totally interconnected with the whole universe that runs through us. It started with me falling into, what I call, fierce self-love which I found to be the hardest step in my healing.
Interconnection is about the opportunity to be so expanded consciously that we are the all that is and it is us. This is our birthright. It leaves me feeling joyful, grateful, and in equanimity.
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Re: Love as consciousness expansion?
Mon, September 28, 2009 - 9:52 AMIt is our primary job as energy beings to take care of ourselves first so we can then be in the world in right relations. This taking care starts with self-love.
And of course all this is only what I know:-)
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